What about dating non-Christians? It’s not advised for Christians to date non-Christians. Since Christians are not supposed to marry non-believers, they should even start thinking about dating them. This is corroborated by 2 Corinthians 6:14, which states, “Do not be joined in marriage to unbelievers. What is the relationship between righteousness and wickedness? How do light and darkness interact, then? Dating a non-believer is technically not sinful, but it is not advisable.
Not Enough Talking About Faith
One of the most important things Christians need to remember when dating non-Christian partners is that faith is an integral part of every aspect of their lives. Their religious beliefs and practices influence everything they do, think, or feel. Those beliefs still affect their daily lives even if they don’t actively participate in their faith community.
Because of this, it’s vital for us to talk about our faith with our potential mates. It’s not enough to say, “I’m Christian” or “I’m Catholic.” We also need to explain that in practical terms so our partners understand where we’re coming from when we say certain things (or even speak at all!).
You Will Be a Bad Witness
You will be a bad witness.
If you do not have the same beliefs as your partner, this can cause confusion and even resentment on their part. Often, Christians who date non-Christians believe that God has allowed them to share the gospel with someone by spending time with them. But if you are not actively sharing your faith in the relationship, it can come across as manipulative or controlling. Furthermore, suppose your partner is interested in learning more about Christianity but feels uncomfortable asking questions because they’re worried about offending you or making you angry. In that case, they may never learn anything at all!
Your Hearts Won’t Be Aligned
But your beliefs are another reason your hearts won’t be aligned.
If you’re Christian and he’s not, it means that at some point in the relationship, you will have to compromise. You both may think it’s a good idea to go out on Sunday mornings for a cup of coffee together when in fact, he should be going to church with his family. He might want to sit through an hour-long sermon about how we can all live together peacefully, while you’d prefer something shorter that focuses on prayer requests and upcoming events.
He might suggest going out for dinner at an Italian restaurant once a week, only for you to realize that eating pasta every week isn’t fulfilling enough, spiritually speaking (and isn’t healthy).
Your Motives Might Be Wrong
The main issue with dating a non-Christian is that you may have ulterior motives.
- You may be trying to change them
- You might be trying to fix them
- Or, you might just want something from them that you can’t get from God
We Need to Focus on What Is Important and Not Just Having Someone in Our Lives.
When it comes to dating, we need to focus on what is important and not just having someone in our lives. Happiness is not the goal of the Christian life. God should be your source of joy and satisfaction. We should not be so concerned about what we have or what we have achieved; instead, our focus should be on how we can serve others.
When you’re dating a non-Christian, you will end up spending more time talking about their interests rather than yours because they don’t share your values or faith in Jesus Christ as their savior. They won’t understand why church attendance is important for you or why prayer is crucial for your daily life.
We can see that the Bible warns Christians not to involve themselves in dating relationships that could damage their faith. Yet, it never actually says what we should do if this happens before marriage or even during marriage itself. What we can take away from all of these is that the Bible encourages us to pursue relationships with people who are not only like-minded but also share our values and beliefs. This includes their faith as well as cultural values such as family ties and traditions.