What To Do As A Christian When Someone Hurts You
While we all strive to be people who are kind and loving, sometimes our brothers and sisters in Christ can hurt us. We don’t expect it, but it happens. If a Christian hurts you or offends you, how should you respond?
Section: Don’t let the offense fester
Section: Respond kindly to the person who hurt you
Section: Be slow to speak
Section: Avoid gossiping about the situation and remember that the person is still a brother or sister in Christ
Takeaway: When someone hurts you, forgive them and express your love for them as a fellow member of Christ’s body.
Don’t Assume You Know The Intention Of The Person.
- Don’t Assume You Know The Intention Of The Person Who Hurt You
If someone has hurt you, it’s natural to assume that they did so on purpose and with malicious intent. But sometimes people make mistakes; even if their intentions were pure, their behavior might have been harmful. So before you decide whether or not a person is truly sorry for their actions, hear them out first. Ask yourself: Is this person genuinely repentant? Or are they just saying what they think I want to hear? Asking these questions may help point you in the right direction regarding whether or not this person truly regrets what happened between you two and can be trusted moving forward.
Pray For The Person Who Hurt You.
Pray for the person who hurt you. You’re going to have a lot of emotions swirling around in your head and heart, but don’t let that stop you from praying for them. The Bible makes it very clear how to pray when someone has hurt us: “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14). It doesn’t matter whether or not we think they deserve forgiveness; what matters is that God says He forgives us when we ask Him, so we must do the same for others.
The apostle Paul wrote about this issue as well when he said “do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good,” (Romans 12:21). In other words, don’t allow yourself to become bitter or angry at those who have done wrong things against us; instead focus on doing good in response! One way we can do this is by praying earnestly for those who have hurt us spiritually or emotionally because they need God’s grace more than anyone else does right now—and chances are good that they won’t receive any until they surrender themselves fully into His loving arms too
Let Go Of Any Resentment You Feel Toward Them.
The first thing that you need to keep in mind is that forgiveness is not a sign of weakness. We often think of forgiveness as something we do when we don’t want to confront someone or deal with our anger, but it’s actually something we should be doing regardless of how the other person treats us. For example, let’s say that one day at work your boss asks you to write a report on how to improve productivity in the department. You pull together all the data and present it back to them only for them not even look at it or acknowledge it at all. Your boss could have just been busy with other things and didn’t have time for your report, but nevertheless this would make you feel like an idiot and upset about how they treated you when you thought about this over time.
However if instead of focusing on how hurtful their actions were (which would ultimately lead towards resentment), we instead chose instead focus on trying understand why they acted this way; maybe they were having personal problems in their life at home which made them distracted from their job? Maybe because they were worried about losing their job so couldn’t take any chances? Maybe they didn’t notice anything wrong because they were tired after working long hours? Or maybe there was another reason entirely! Focusing on these kinds questions rather than focusing solely on how much pain has caused by certain situation will help heal any wounds inside ourselves quickly because then there’s nothing left over except love again 🙂
Break Communication With Them Until They Apologize And Are Truly Sorry For What They Did.
- Break Communication With Them Until They Apologize And Are Truly Sorry For What They Did.
If someone has hurt you, it is important to remember that they are still a person of value and worth. However, if they have done something wrong and continue to do so, then it’s best not to communicate with them until they apologize and are truly sorry for what they did.
Wait And See If They’re Truly Sorrowful About What They Did To You Before Accepting Their Apology.
- Wait and see if they’re truly sorrowful about what they did to you before accepting their apology.
- Be wary of people who have never wronged you but feel the need to apologize for something every time they see you. Their apologies are meaningless and only serve as a way for them to make themselves feel better about themselves.
- Look for specific signs that show your antagonist is truly sorry:
- They accept responsibility and admit that what they did was wrong. If the person is only sorry because he or she got caught, then this is not sincere remorse (see Matthew 5:23-24).
- He or she offers restitution or reparations in order to make up for any damage done by his actions (see Matthew 5:48).
Do Not Under Any Circumstances Grudge Or Hold A Grudge Against Them.
When someone hurts you, it is important not to hold on to resentment or a grudge.
Resentment is looking at another person’s past wrongs and holding them against them. You become bitter because you have been offended by something they did in the past.
You may be angry with someone for what he or she has done, but if you don’t deal with this anger and bitterness in a healthy way, it can lead to more trouble.
There are many things that can make forgiveness hard for people—such as:
- The offense was so serious that it was difficult for us to understand why the person would do what they did;
- We feel like we shouldn’t forgive because an apology wasn’t given first;
- We don’t want our friend or family member back into our lives; * No one else seems mad about what happened either way (this is called “rationalizing”); * What incentive do I have?
These steps will help you remember that God is in Charge and He will take care of it for you!
- Remember that God is in Charge and He will take care of it for you!
- Trust that God knows what is best for you, even if it’s not what you want or expect at the moment.
- The Bible says that when we trust Him, our hearts are made glad and He gives us peace from within (Isaiah 26:3). You need to find ways to bring yourself back into a place of peace so you can live your life without being affected by all these hurtful things happening around you right now.
- Ask God to help give you the strength to forgive those who have hurt you (Matthew 18:21–22). This may not come easily for many people but reading about how Jesus forgave others will help remind us how much He loves each one of us individually too!
Do not let the enemy have pleasure in hurting you. Forgive them, and you will be the one who gains joy.