It’s true that we need to be careful not to get too far into an argument that we can’t walk away from it, or else it will be hard in the future. However, there are some situations where you absolutely must walk away from a friendship: when they hurt you or others, when they don’t show respect for your boundaries or values, and when they refuse to change their behavior even after you’ve made them aware of its effect on you. Here’s how I know it’s time to end a friendship…
Christian believers ought to be free to discontinue a friendship without feeling bad about it. It’s not always simple, but there are occasions when walking away is in your best interests as much as theirs. Here are several scenarios where ending a friendship could be best for your spiritual wellbeing:
When Should A Christian Walk Away From A Friendship?
A Companion without Boundaries
Christian relationship limits resemble the house’s walls. They safeguard you from the outside world. Anyone can enter your home whenever they want and do anything they want there if you don’t have any walls. Similarly, if we don’t establish limits in our lives, others will abuse us. Boundaries are not intended to be unpleasant, nasty, unkind, or indifferent; rather, they are a method for Christians to demonstrate their love for others by placing restrictions on how far their friendships can go in order to ensure that both parties are safeguarded and treated fairly.
A Friend Who Is Constantly Critical of You.
Criticism is a fact of life, and Christians need to learn how to handle it. But if you have a friend who constantly criticizes everything about you and nothing positive comes from the relationship, it may be time to move on.
How can you tell whether a friend is being constructive or destructive? In general, if your friend has something negative to say about almost everything about you (your appearance, actions, etc.), then there are more likely than not problems with their attitude towards you. If they’re always criticizing but never offering any kind words or encouragement, that might be an indicator as well. The biggest clue will be whether or not these criticisms have anything positive behind them—are they trying to help build up your character? Or are they just attacking without offering constructive feedback? You’ll need to use discernment in this case—and only take into account what has been said directly instead of second-hand gossip—since it can sometimes be hard for us as mere mortals to separate constructive criticism from personal attacks (even when coming from someone we love).
If talking with this person doesn’t help improve things between the two of you after several attempts at having open conversations where both parties share their feelings and concerns openly without being defensive or sarcastic toward one another…then perhaps moving forward without them would be better for everyone involved in order not only protect yourself but also preserve what’s most important–friendship itself.”
A Friend Who Doesn’t Respect Your Faith.
A friend who doesn’t respect your faith.
It’s okay to have a friend who doesn’t agree with everything you believe in and practices, but when they are constantly challenging your faith and making fun of it, then it is time to walk away from that friendship. This type of person will only cause you more pain than good over time.
- One example would be when a Christian friend makes fun of someone else’s beliefs or practices without knowing what they’re doing wrong. They may tell you things like “Oh, I don’t believe in God,” or “That is so ridiculous,” when referring to certain Christian practices or beliefs. This type of behavior shows that this person thinks religion is just nonsense and irrationality; therefore, there is no reason for them not to mock those who practice their religion sincerely and respectfully (even if they don’t agree with all aspects).
A Friend whose Values Are Way Different from Yours.
You should also consider your friend’s values. A friendship is about shared values and experiences. If you have different values than your friend, it can cause conflict because you won’t understand each other or agree on anything that goes on in life. You may even stop being friends with someone because of their beliefs, which is not a good thing for either party involved.
You need to be able to talk about any difference in opinion with your friends, otherwise the relationship won’t last long term. If you feel like you can’t change their mind, then it might be time for both parties to part ways!
A Friend whose Friendship Is So Much to Maintain.
You are not responsible for your friend’s problems or shortcomings. You can’t make their life better by just being there, and it’s not your job to save them from themselves. You can only be a good friend when you’re in control of the situation and know that the friendship is mutually beneficial. If you find yourself constantly helping out a friend who takes advantage of you, then it may be time to rethink your relationship with this person.
A Friend Who Belittles You or Puts You Down.
If you have a friend who belittles you or puts you down, your first thought might be to walk away from the relationship. But before you do that, consider the following:
- If there is any chance of salvaging the friendship with this person, it’s important that you try.
- When dealing with someone who belittles and puts down others intentionally, we must remember that deep inside, this person feels insecure about themselves and their abilities in life. They feel like they need to put others down in order to protect themselves (or so they believe). Again, if there is any hope for salvaging this friendship at all—and if doing so will help them grow spiritually—then give it a chance!
You can be a good and loyal friend without tolerating a toxic friendship.
Your loyalty is commendable and you should be proud of the way you’re handling this situation. When it comes to friendships, though, we must always remember that our first priority is to be good friends ourselves—and not just “good enough” or “pretty good.” The Bible tells us:
- “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
- “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24).
In other words, if your friend is belittling or abusing you in any way, then it’s time to take a step back from your friendship.
As we’ve seen in these examples, there are many reasons why you should walk away from a friendship. However, it doesn’t mean that you can never have another relationship with this person again. The important thing is to put your health first and make sure you aren’t putting yourself in danger or compromising your values for the sake of being liked by someone else.
We know that walking away from a friendship can be hard, but sometimes it’s necessary. It’s important to remember that becoming an adult means learning to navigate new and difficult situations, like when you have to walk away from a friend. You may not be able to control how your friends respond in these cases, but you will have the opportunity to show them kindness by being respectful of their feelings as well as your own.